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Tuesday, April 15, 2014

I've been hovering.

I talked about how homeschooling is all done and I'm ready to move forward, but am I really, really, ready to move forward?  I honestly and truly want to help them navigate their way through college.

When I was in college, I wasn't exactly first generation in my family, but I was the first person to not go to the college down the road. I was the first person to strike out on my own, and the first person to live with roommates, and the first person to not get financial aid, and so I had to also work my way through college.

I amassed a lot of information during that time, and I made a lot of mistakes and miss steps.  I would love to be able to help my kids with this and to help them ask the right questions, so they can navigate better, and even then ask the right questions for their own kids in the future.

Hovering looks different where my two kids are concerned.

Let's start with the oldest.  He's all business.  He's serious.  He's hard working.  College is a challenge.  He is on his 2nd college in 2 years, and his third major, but he is settling in and starting to gain momentum.  I spent many hours of the last week going over his transfer record, what he has taken to date, and what is required of his new (and hopefully final) major in order for him to graduate. Then I started asking questions... lots of questions, which he then forwarded to his advisor.  This helped to clarify, exactly how long it would take to graduate at his current rate (5 semesters), and what he needed to do to make sure that would happen.  We also got two requirements removed from his record that were place there for no other reason than the fact that he was homeschooled.  You see, public colleges in GA will demand you take an additional Science and an additional Social Studies just because you were homeschooled... and so we just sucked it up and said OK, but in all of the question asking, someone noticed that he transferred into the new college with 31 credits and that requirement gets waived with 30 transferred credits.  I am hoping that he will be trained to ask all of his own question by SR. year.  But until that happens, I am glad to help... now if we could only secure him and internship for the next 3 summers.

Then there's the youngest one.  She's all about fun. She's pushy, and she's barreling through life and drinking from every fire hydrant she encounters.  College is easy. Go figure. She's taking Art, is scheduled for horseback riding in the fall, and is kind spreading herself thin.  She's loaded up on classes in her major, but she hasn't really touched the core curriculum... the basics on which the major sits upon.  After much talking and looking at all she wants to accomplish in her college years, it has been decided that she will spend the summers immersed in books to CLEP out of as many core classes as possible, and also to not mess with her GPA which she has managed to keep high enough to be asked into the honors program, and to keep her scholarship.   As she is still my baby, and still not of legal age just yet, I find myself hovering in other ways. If I know she's going out, I want to know when she gets back. If she has an event or performance, I want to be there or at least get pictures... I want to be included in her life.   She does't always cooperate, but her Facebook page clues me in.

So that's my confession, good, bad, or indifferent.  That's pretty much what I am doing where my kids are concerned.

Hey.  It takes a while to come down off of homeschooling.

Thursday, April 03, 2014

Don't judge me bro

It blows my mind, how many laws, rules, and regulations us homeschoolers impose on one another. This may sound... Is... Trivial, but a blog argument going on right now is the state of dress, or undress of homeschoolers. This particular post is over at HEDUA homeschooling site and is titled, "homeschoolers please put your cloths on", or something like that.

Apparently, the writer doesn't like the sterotype that homeschoolers learn I'm their pjs, and are out to shame us himechoolers into wearing respectable clothing, while in our homes, teaching our kids.  

Well, I failed this one, and there's no way I could pass it. You see, I've been known to sleep in my clothes, and spend the day in my pajamas, and my kids and husband are known to do the same. You see, I just buy comfy clothes which might consist of medical scribs, yoga pants, drawstring flannel pants, t-shirts, maxi dresses, etc.  I've been known to purchase a pile of black outside pants from the lingerie department, and a pile of sleeping t-shirts from the men's clearance racks. People have stopped and asked me where my very cool outfit came from (that I wore out the house) and I have to admit to wearing a $100 dressy shirt with $5.00 wide leg pajama pants.. Or lie.  So that's how I roll. 

And so what?  Who cares... I was comfortable, and looked good, and if I happened to fall asleep, then I was already dressed for it. 

His all leaves me with a big question... Who died and made these people the homeschool wardrobe police?  On the list of all the reasons we decided to homeschool, following someone else's instructions is not to be found on that list. I don't care I'd you show up at the homeschool meeting covered in rabbit fur and soil from the garden, why do you care what department my pants came from?  Better yet, even of I came out to a 5 pm meeting in Jeans and a sweater, why do you care what time I put them on? 

So this rant is nearly over.  But I'm going to go ahead and list all the other things I don't want other homeschoolers trying to dictate:
Math curriculum 
Community college
No Community College
sending my girl child to college
Not sending my girlchild to college
Science curriculum
My child's college choice or lack of
The young age my child graduated from homeschooling
The fact that my friends child kept homeschooling until almost 20
Homeschool room, or dining room table tent 

I could go on and on, but the point is that homeschoolers need to get a lot less judging, and a lot more flexible, because closemindedness does a lot more harm to homeschooling than me still wearing my pajama pants at 4:30 pm.  

Ps.  Both my college kids manage to get respectably dressed before leaving their dorm rooms. 
Pps.  This is written on an iPad.  Typos are unavoidable. 

Sunday, March 16, 2014

A snapshot of things to come.

What an adventure!  So daughter and I went to NY for her college spring break.  I don't know how many times I have left to get her all to myself, so I grabbed onto this opportunity while she is still under 18.

We saw Lion King, and If/Then, a new play starring Idina Menzel (Adele Dazeem per John Travolta).  We also met with some friends, had dinner with my dad, and shopped until we literally dropped.

The thing that stood out to the most in my week with my daughter who is 3/4 of the way through her freshman year in college is that she is all grown up.  She makes decisions easily. She navigated NY like a pro, dragging me along. And thank goodness, her sense of direction is better than mine. She makes wise food and shopping choices, and she's got a quick wit and off-beat sense of humor.  I love being around her.

I know that our week was just a snapshot of things to come because she fully  intends to move to NY when she finishes her degree to get a MFA at a NY theatre program. She is already making a list of schools, and our next trip to NY will be mostly to look at programs.  Scary, but I know she can handle it.

Tuesday, March 11, 2014

Things that make me really mad...

People who don't give themselves enough time to get where they are going, so they speed and harass people like me who drive speed limit.

Guys who sag their pants... especially to the degree where their entire behinds are above their belt line.  I'm not talking about 2, 3, 4, or even 6 inches below the natural waist.  I'm talking 12-18 inches.  STOP IT.

People who exxagerate the truth for political or social gain.  People who believe these exaggerations.

People who re-victimize victims.

It's been quite a week.  Taking my darling girl on vacation to see some NY shows.  Will miss hubby, but fun's got to be had.